As the queer community gains visibility and acceptance, spaces have opened up for romantic relationships and friendships to grow among queer men across the generation gap. In this new video from Logo TV, young and older gay-identifying men talk about their experiences with cross-generational relationships, as well as what they've come to look for in these encounters. The perspectives among this group of men are varied. Some of the younger men explain the rise of these kind of relationships as tied to the "daddy" culture now permeating the queer community.
Dominating with Double Biceps
Dominant Ladies | The University of Slavery and Servitude
In gender studies , hegemonic masculinity is part of R. Connell 's gender order theory , which recognizes multiple masculinities that vary across time, culture and the individual. Hegemonic masculinity is defined as a practice that legitimizes men's dominant position in society and justifies the subordination of the common male population and women, and other marginalized ways of being a man. As a sociological concept, the nature of hegemonic masculinity derives from the theory of cultural hegemony , by Marxist theorist Antonio Gramsci , which analyses the power relations among the social classes of a society. Hence, in the term hegemonic masculinity , the adjective hegemonic refers to the cultural dynamics by means of which a social group claims, and sustains, a leading and dominant position in a social hierarchy; nonetheless, hegemonic masculinity embodies a form of social organization that has been sociologically challenged and changed. The conceptual beginnings of hegemonic masculinity represented the culturally idealized form of manhood that was socially and hierarchically exclusive and concerned with bread-winning; that was anxiety-provoking and differentiated internally and hierarchically ; that was brutal and violent, pseudo-natural and tough, psychologically contradictory, and thus crisis-prone; economically rich and socially sustained. Consequently, hegemonic masculinity was reformulated to include gender hierarchy , the geography of masculine configurations, the processes of social embodiment, and the psycho-social dynamics of the varieties of masculinity.
To explain the origins of female subordination we need a theory that accounts for the control of women's work by men. Published in , Women's Work, Men's Property: The Origins of Gender and Class , edited by Stephanie Coontz and Peta Henderson, comprises five essays by a group of French and American feminist historians and anthropologists, in search of the sociohistorical basis of gender inequality. Male dominance is one of the earliest known and most widespread forms of inequality in human history.
The eroticization of male dominance and female passivity in couple relations is a game in which there are no winners, a luring trap that blocks what makes human relationships human an empathic connection a hard wired drive to mutually know and compassionately understand one another that is rooted in our nature to matter as meaning-seeking relational beings. This capacity remains dormant, however, unless developed. It is a learned ability that requires such skills as being open and vulnerable to one another, an essential aspect of growing the courage we need to love with our whole heart. To love with our whole heart, in a nutshell, means to develop our capacity to remain empathically connected to self and other , in moments when core fears, such as inadequacy or rejection, get triggered.